A lot of people throw around the acronym “IDGAF” these days. These are usually the self-proclaimed “savages” who are really just assholes. Not giving a fuck definitely has its perks; but there is a big difference between not giving a fuck and treating people like shit. If you find yourself simultaneously hating these types of people and envying their lives all at the same time, you’re probably someone who tends to get the short end of the stick.
If you’re someone who wishes they could give less fucks, then this article is for you. If you find yourself constantly trying to please others and worrying about what others might think, you really need to stop giving a fuck. Taking this attitude can change your life. Take a page out of the book of douchebags and live life like you want (just don’t become an asshole).
Here are 4 ways not giving a fuck will completely change your life for the better:
1) You Can Finally Be Yourself
Let’s face it. Nobody really knows who they are completely. We are always changing and evolving throughout different stages in our lives. But if you care too much, or if you are constantly worried about others, than you’ll just go with the tide. Once you learn to stop giving a fuck (it’s a long journey) you’ll have more time and freedom to figure out what it is that you want to do; not what everyone else wants to do. If you have no clue who you are right now, that’s okay. The first step towards not giving a fuck is walking away from the crowd and trying new things. Trying new things allows us to learn more about ourselves. Say you go try surfing for the first time, and come to find you hate it. That’s a good thing! You just learned something about yourself. Keep an open mind and try new things on your journey in learning how to completely not give a fuck!
2) It Will Drastically Improve Your Dating Life
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably been hurt by people you’ve dated. We’ve all gone through it. Bobby who had a rough childhood breaks Tammy’s heart. Tammy becomes a rebel in spite of Bobby and breaks Jimmy’s heart. Jimmy decides to go on a rampage and penetrate as many women as he can and breaks a few hearts in the process. One of Jimmy’s one night stands gets pregnant with Kim, but Jimmy wants nothing to do with his daughter. Kim has a rough childhood because her father was never around, so she breaks the first heart she finds. The whole cycle starts over again. It’s the circle of this fucked up thing we call “life.”
If you’ve been heart broken like Jimmy or Tammy, you’re probably thinking of castrating every member of the opposite sex. Before you do that though, there is another way. Just stop giving a fuck. I’m not saying turn yourself into the town bus where everyone gets a ride, but just stop caring what people of the opposite sex think of you. You’ll find that the less you care about getting someone to love you or getting laid, the more heads you’ll turn. You’ll finally stop getting all googly-eyed when your crush walks by you and he or she will wonder why you aren’t giving them attention. They will find your complete disregard for them attractive because you’re the only person in the room not drooling over them. If this sounds like a fucked up reason to be attracted to someone, it is; but psychology never fails.
The best part of not giving a fuck while you’re in the dating game is you’re able to easily weed out the bad ones. Say and do whatever the hell you want (while being considerate of your date) and you’ll find out which ones are willing to let you be who you are and won’t try to change you. If they don’t like it, then kick ‘em to the curb. The right one will come along eventually, if you let them.
3) You Will Cut Out Toxic Friendships
When you stop giving a fuck, your friends won’t like it at first. You’ll get some backlash from friends asking what’s come over you. Some might even say you’re being mean. If you hear it from more than one person, you might want to check yourself before you wreck yourself. You’re probably being a dick and you don’t want to end up completely friendless. However, if you think you’re being completely reasonable and you’re just being straight forward with your friends, then just keep doing you. Your real friends will accept you for who you are. Those who don’t accept you for you are probably in the friendship for some selfish reason and it’s not worth your time or energy.
4) You Will Stop Stressing Over What Others Think
If you find yourself constantly criticizing your appearance or your personality because you’re worried about what others think of you, then you really need to adopt the “IDGAF” attitude. One thing that maturity will teach you is that you are your own biggest critic. You spend all this time and energy worried about your appearance and yet nobody actually cares because they are too worried about how they look. Everyone is their own biggest critic. So stop worrying about what they think and look and act however the hell you want. In fact, acting or looking different is often more respected in society than those who just go with the crowd. Be yourself, be different and stop giving a fuck!